Last summer I started dating someone I was very attracted to. Before wed even kissed,I was fantasizing about what it would be like to be intimate with him and I couldnt wait. As usual, the fantasy was better than the reality. When we finally had our first kiss, I felt nothing. I couldnt believe it. I thought maybe there was something wrong with me. A week later we did the deed and it was the second worst sex of my life. I finally realized that even if youre attracted to someone, thats not a guarantee of great sex. Wouldnt it be nice to know beforehand, so you wont be so disappointed, if you even decide to go there? Luckily, I just read a great book called Supersex by Tracey Cox and found out some ways to know if someone will be good in bed. Although the author is referring to men, I think these can be applied to both sexes: How do they eat? The wham-bam-thank-you-man demolishes a hamburger in 10 seconds flat. The only-do-it-on-Sunday-morning-in-the-missionary-position person refuses to eat anything but steak and potatoes and hamburger-and-fries combos. If hes not into experimenting or trying exotic fare, hes hardly going to dish up the Kama Sutra behind closed doorsEven worse are the fussy, finicky types who hassle the waiter and send things back to the kitchen four times. Imagine what this guy would be like if your bodys not up to snuff-let alone your sexual techniqueThe litmus test for food though is if he shares. The man who offers you a mouthful of his main course is a keeper. When you go out to eat together the first time, peruse the menu and ask his opinion of some of the more unusual dishes. Would he ever try them? How does he move? Someone once said that dancing is sex standing up and fully clothed. Pay attention to what he does on the dance floor and youve just had a glimpse into what hell get up to in the bedroom. Youre looking for variety, rhythm and an ability to lose himself in the music. The self-conscious get the bootDitto anyone who can dance without ever moving the lower half of their bodyAt the opposite end of the spectrum is the Look at Me!!! Sex with an overt exhibitionist is rarely satisfying. Hes usually so self-absorbed, your function is simply to be a live mirror who ooohs and aaahs over how fabulous he looks and performsBeware the guys who make jerky, hectic movements on the dance floorpremature ejaculator. The next time you meet someone youre interested in, be sure to ask: Can you dance? How does he talk? If hes talking in a monotone and changes expressions once an hour, youve hardly hit on Mr. Enthusiastic. The guy whos throwing his arms up in the air and nearly knocking over the water is full of life and passion. In general, the more outgoing and socially skilled he is, the more likely he is to be a good communicator in bed. Observe how he talks to different people. If hes reserved with everyone, hell probably be reserved with you too! Bo-ring. Hows his touch? Is he generous with his affection? The more comfortable he is with expressing affection, the more affectionate and loving hell be during sex. How he holds your hand is a great indicator of how hell perform. If he intertwines his fingers with yours, hes likely to be highly erotic. At the opposite end is the man who does a half hearted fingertips only hand hold. Words like lukewarm lover and commitment-phobe should spring to mind. If he wont hold hands at all, run! Hows his kiss? The clincher! If its melt material, so will the sex be. If its awful, dont go there. If he refrains from shoving his tongue down your throat, he wont rush you into sex (expect foreplay galore). Most promising sexually is someone wholl kiss with their lips and touch you somewhere else with their hands at the same time. . I cant stress the kiss enough. Cher was right when she sang, Its in his kiss. If it is not there, you probably wont find it in the bedroom either. |
