How to get your man to open up? 1.Compliments are a wonderful way to affirm your man. Tell him all the wonderful things you love about him. In so doing you endear him to you and most naturally cause him to open up and reciprocate concerning all the phenomenal things he is thrilled about concerning you. 2.Ask questions. Politely and gently ask your man how he is feeling, how his week is going and if there is anything on his mind he'd like to talk about. You know not because you ask not. If you want to know what's on his mind, ask him. 3.Listen to him attentively when he does talk. Put down whatever it is you are doing and be an active listener. When your man is talking is not the time to multi-task. Show him that he is top priority and what he has to say matters and is most important to you. Women by nature can typically dominate conversations as they speak more words per day than men. If you really want your man to open up than you must listen when he talks and not interrupt. The quickest way to get someone to shut down is to continually interrupt them every time they try to speak to you. When you interject your thoughts and ideas when a person is speaking it says, "I already know what you are going to say. What you are saying is not important to me. Listen to what I want to talk about." 4.Don't offer advice. Affirm him and acknowledge his intelligence. Tell him: "I know you are wise and will do what is best." If he wants advice let him ask for it. If you show yourself supportive and believe in him, you will be the first person he goes to when he needs to bounce ideas around before taking action. 5.Don't criticize. When you withhold criticism and judgment you create a safe place between you and your man. Safety and security is extremely important to assure continual communication in a relationship. You don't have to always agree with your man, but you most certainly can listen. Let listening be a means by which you gain understanding as to his thought processes, discover his values and learn what ultimately is most important to him. Why is communication important in a relationship? The key to communication is listening. Anybody can talk. And just because you are talking does not mean anybody is listening. If you are only talking and nobody is truly listening you are merely performing a monologue. Communication is important in a relationship because it is the first way we express how we feel and what we think. Your mouth is connected to your heart. From the overflow of the heart comes the words of the mouth. If you don't listen to your man, somebody else will. And the person he shares his secrets with is the person he shares his heart with. Remember that the next time he opens up and you are less than interested. Learn to be actively interested in what interests your man. In so doing your love will deepen, your connection grow and your understanding increase. Nothing feels better than being able to be completely transparent, real and open with someone who does not judge you but loves you as you are. Unconditional love is affirming and accepting at all times. It is first shown in the way we listen to one another. Happy listening and loving! |
