When it comes to an inability to attract women in general it has more to do with a man's perceptions or distortions with reality. Many times when a man says he has no success in attracting women what he really means is he doesn't attempt to talk to women in a way that can create attraction because he already knows the outcome. Here is the list of the ten most common distortions in mans thinking that causes him to not attract women. All or Nothing Thinking: When dealing with women if you don't get exactly what you want then you consider it a complete failure. Overgeneralization: One single rejection from a woman turns into a lifetime of rejection from women. Negative Mental Filter: When interacting with women you tend to focus on the negative details, any positive details are left out making the entire interaction appear negative in your mind. Discounting the Positive: Any positive outcomes that you have with women "don't count" Mind Reading: When dealing with women you assume that she isn't attracted to you even if she hasn't given you any signs that she isn't. Fortune Telling: Even before your relationship or date begins with a woman, you predict that it will end in failure. Emotional Reasoning: You reason since you feel like a failure with women that you must really be one. Different Set of Rules: When it comes to attracting women you should be able to be yourself. Also any other statements that you would like to be true but you know that the rule is it generally isn't. Labeling: When it comes to your shortcomings with women you label yourself a "fool" or "loser" instead of finding out the real cause of your problem with women and trying to correct it. Personalization and blame: When approaching women you blame yourself for getting rejected even though rejection from a woman has more to do with her than it does you. |
