So you are looking for that special one? Or, you are wanting to cultivate some nice friendships? Whatever it is you want, sometimes forcing something into your life is not the way to go. Instead of hunting someone down, why not attract them to you. Why not get engaged in the game of life and attract these people into your life? Imagine walking into a party where you are greeted by someone as they proceed to "interview" and question you. Not very pleasant is it? Wouldn't it feel more comfortable if people came up to you and starting talking without the intention of finding out your social security number and deep beliefs? You both would feel more at ease and in the long run you would be more open to sharing details about yourself. Finding and cultivating relationships is much easier when you don't try so hard. Just be yourself, engage in activities that bring you joy, and experience the results. I am a true believer that things happen at the right time. It is counterproductive to force something or get stressed out when it doesn't happen on your time table. See what people come into your life when you are genuinely experiencing your life, happy and carefree. Yes relationships take work, they don't magically happen on their own. However, once the person comes into your life, then invest in the relationship and help it grow. Take the stress off yourself that you'll always be alone, again if you focus merely on that statement that is exactly what you will attract into your life. ACTION TIPS FOR THE WEEK: 1. Engage in life Get back in the game of life! Pursue activities that bring you joy and you will meet like minds. Take the focus off the end result. Try not to get caught up in meeting someone, just enjoy activities and interests that will place you in the environment with individuals with similar interests. 2. Just be yourself So often we try to be someone else in order to "fit in", thus not being your authentic self. Just be yourself because in the end you want people to embrace you "as is". Express the qualities that make you who you are! 3. Timing is everything Just know that timing is a big part of when and who you meet in your life. I know for a fact that had I met my husband prior to when we did meet, we probably would not have been a good match. Just have faith that people come into your life at the perfect time. This doesn't mean you should wait at home for them to show up on your doorstep! Engage in life and see what happens. |
